Opinion
My Conversation with a Virgin Prostitute
By Dr jalarth Uche Opara
It certainly sounds strange. It raises eyebrows and appears to be a contradiction in terms.
She sat beside me at a book presentation attended by the crème de la crème of society.
During the few minutes we conversed, her composure was calm and her knowledge impressive. She neither smoked nor drank alcohol.
“I am a virgin,” she told me. Can’t remember how our conversation got to that point. Nevertheless I was genuinely impressed. In a society where many young people are under immense pressure regarding sexuality, I commended what I perceived as her commitment to chastity.
Almost as though she had been waiting for that compliment, she calmly dropped a bombshell. “I am also a prostitute.” “A prostitute?” I asked, unable to hide my disbelief. Without hesitation, she brought out her phone and showed me photographs of herself performing at nightclubs. “This is me,” she said. “I am a nightclub stripper. I entertain men, give sensual massages, and provide experiences that leave them intoxicated with pleasure.”
I looked at her in astonishment. “But how can you do all these and still claim to be a virgin?” I asked.
“It sounds strange,” she replied, “but that is my reality.” Our conversation left me reflecting on what virginity truly means.
If virginity is defined merely as the absence of penetrative sexual intercourse, then it is possible for someone to engage in sexually provocative or commercialized activities and still technically remain a virgin.
Yet virginity is much more than a physical condition. True purity is not merely the non-penetration of the body; it is also the non-penetration of the mind, the heart, and the spirit by immorality. A person may remain physically intact while becoming emotionally, morally, or spiritually compromised.
Hands can become instruments of exploitation, the mind can become captive to impurity, and the heart can lose its innocence long before the body does.
Our generation has reduced virginity to a biological condition while neglecting its moral and spiritual dimensions. We celebrate an intact body but often ignore a corrupted conscience. We applaud physical restraint while excusing pornography, lust, sensuality, emotional manipulation, and the commercialization of sexuality.
The Bible presents a higher standard. Jesus said, “Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28). In other words, purity begins long before physical actions; it begins in the heart. Likewise, St. Paul reminds us: “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit?” (1 Corinthians 6:19). The temple is not merely to remain physically undamaged; it is to remain holy.
Virginity, therefore, is not simply the absence of sexual intercourse. It is the presence of moral integrity. It is the harmony of body, mind, and spirit under the discipline of virtue.
The young lady may have preserved her hymen, but she had surrendered her body to an industry built on sexual gratification. While society may debate whether she is technically a virgin, the deeper question remains: What have we allowed to penetrate our minds, hearts, and souls?
In the end, God will not judge us merely by the condition of our bodies but by the condition of our hearts.
Food for Thought
You can preserve your body and still lose your purity. But when your heart, mind, body, and spirit are consecrated to God, you possess a purity that no medical examination can measure and no worldly definition can fully explain.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” — Matthew 5:8.
You think is possible to have a Virgin prostitute or you believe that Virginity is a total package of the purity and sacredness of the body, mind and spirit?
Jarlath Opara
jarlathuche@gmail.com